Frequently Asked Questions

What happens during a session?

Learning something new is always a little daunting, let alone when it involves sexuality, so I believe it is really important to ensure my clients feel relaxed, safe and comfortable. On first arriving at the studio we will sit and have a chat about what you want to learn and experience during the session, as well as cover any questions or concerns. Then you will get changed into a sarong (men), which is provided, or underpants/bra and sarong or robe (female).

If it is a single session for men I will be in the female role. The reason for the scarce clothing is to remove the barriers and ‘mask’ we put up to others, so that we can allow ourselves to be who we really are (our authentic self), not what we wear, do for a living or own.

N.B If the thought of this terrifies you, comfortable clothing is fine.

The studio is candle lit, which hides a multitude of sins so everyone looks good, with lovely music and aromatherapy burners.

Session One is both educational and experiential as a flowing sequence of “keys” that will keep you loving and living “in the moment” i.e. breathing, relaxation, eye contact, communication, moving energy through the body, Yab Yum.

As you will see from the session details the benefits of these practices are felt on many levels and as you see from the testimonials the experience is loving, nurturing and centering. Session Two is the Tantric massage. Once again we will have a chat going over what you learned in the first session, then it’s time to release and surrender to the experience.

How sexual are the sessions?

There are many tantrikas or dakinis (skydancers) who become very intimate in their teachings, while I have no issue with that, I personally do not believe it is necessary. Tantra consists of two main components: using sexual energy to harmonize relationships and to enhance sexual experience.

I’m more than happy to teach advanced sexual practices to couples wanting to explore their sexuality through tantra if they both feel open, comfortable and natural. However, I do not physically teach advanced sexual techniques to men.

Single sessions do involve touch of the Lingam (penis) or Yoni (vagina) but it is to bring consciousness or awareness to the genitals as well as understanding how to move sexual energy through the body, not for sexual relief.

What happens if I get an erection during the session?

Erections are welcome. It is not a problem or something to be embarrassed about, I teach you very simple techniques that help remove and spread that energy, which is pure life force, through your body. In saying that don’t be concerned if you don’t get an erection, most clients are amazed that they didn’t feel “erect” in a sensuous setting.

I’m quite spiritual but my partner isn’t, should I still learn Tantra even if she isn’t interested?

Obviously the best case scenario is if both partners are on the same path, and I cannot advocate enough that even if your partner isn’t interested that they give it a go. However, I have seen many single clients who have been able to take what they have learned and experienced back to their relationship with positive results.

I’m not spiritual at all, have never done yoga or meditation, but would like a natural alternative for premature ejaculation or erection strength issues?

That’s great. Tantric techniques are a wonderful, 100% natural way of addressing sexual performance issues in both men and women. The sessions aren’t overly spiritual but learning a little about energy and spirituality will be an added benefit.

My wife is very hesitant in coming to a session as she is very shy/nervous/worried about her looks/intimidated about discussing or feeling sexual with another woman in the room?

Don’t worry you’re not the only one. As I have said in the preparation for sessions this is something most people haven’t experienced and it is still relatively unknown and misunderstood. But while the sessions do involve sexuality, they are not “out there”, they are private, they are professional and they are fun!!!

I have seen it all, all shapes and sizes and I’m completely sensitive to people’s fears and insecurities.

I am not a beauty queen, I’m a mother and I stay clothed during couple’s sessions. I encourage your partner to give me a call if she is not sure.

Where to after the two sessions?

Milk & honey offers the foundation of tantra from here your journey can continue through other practitioners, books, retreats and visiting overseas “gurus” whom I can recommend. Alternatively, most clients visit again for the beautiful massage.

What does Namaste mean?

This Sanskrit word, Namaste, is a manner of greeting used by many Hindus, Taoists and Buddhists as a form of reverence to those we greet. Commonly written "Namaste", it is pronounced as "Namastay". It translates as “The divine in me recognizes and honours the divine in you” or literally, “I bow to you”. The hands are brought together in prayer position over the heart, and the head bows in greeting.

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